Summer…thus far it has been interesting to say the least. I’m still dating but I can take it or leave it.
Who knew finding a partner much less a husband would be so much work? Well, I knew but I forgot how tiring and annoying it can be. What really bothers me is the sheer amount of men who don’t know how to spell and have very poor grammar. WTF is going on in the world? I know it can’t just be me…it can’t. I’m not looking for a scholar or a genius. I’m just looking for a man who knows when to use “then” and when to use “than”. A man who knows the difference between “your” and “you’re”. When I say it has been difficult and damn near impossible to find a man who does – I am NOT exaggerating. I am so dismayed. Bad grammar is one of those things that you just have to accept about someone or move on. It’s not like bad fashion sense which can be fixed…Bad grammar/spelling is really hard to change. If you’re almost 30 and still don’t know how to spell, there’s no help for you – I’m sorry! And I know that people are living life and don’t care about grammar or spelling because they know enough to get by BUT it drives me insane…
Social networking and technology have also shed a lot of light on those with less than stellar grammar. A man with poor grammar now has a variety of ways to show off how much he does not know via twitter, facebook, Tagged, LinkedIn etc. Bad grammar is also evident when texting, which is the best form of communicating (it seems) for new age dating. I may not have had so much exposure in the past because there weren’t really many opportunities for a man to express himself to me in writing except the occasional passionate love letter, birthday or anniversary card. But I live in a time where I will inevitably bear witness to how well a man expresses himself in the written form and I am disheartened. I am simply disheartened that there are so few men who know how to string a well-constructed sentence together. Sigh…what’s a girl to do?
Confessions of a Thinkaholic 
July 6, 2011 at 2:24 am
pretty amusing 🙂
you have a long list of requirements, don’t you? 😛
July 6, 2011 at 3:49 am
Do you really think so? I don’t but maybe this is what all guys think. I have a long list of requirements…I should just do away with all requirements and take whatever raggedy mess that comes my way huh? Lol
July 6, 2011 at 12:27 pm
i didn’t mean that 🙂
but you might not like someone who is very wordy either
that might get on your nerves too… in time
the more intellectual, the more argumentative and demanding i figure…
a simple man might not appease your literary tastes…
but no one man has everything 😛
i don’t know… i guess what I’m trying to say is
the feelings matter… not the words used to express them…
’cause you and I both know, the words are never enough.
July 6, 2011 at 12:30 pm
but if I misdirected you, sorry 🙂
it’s better to know what one wants and wait…
than go for whatever looks all right and suffer later
but that requires courage to face the possibility that maybe no one will ever do.
July 6, 2011 at 2:52 pm
Wow…I guess I’m just gonna be alone because I want too much by wanting a man with proper grammar. SMH. Who knew that was asking for too much?
July 6, 2011 at 2:18 pm
your a very picky woman. what are you’re flaws huh? If you won’t admit you have them too than you will be single forever right? See what I did their-LOL!
July 6, 2011 at 2:55 pm
I don’t know how I’m picky but ok…I have flaws but poor grammar and spelling is not one of them. Thanks
July 6, 2011 at 3:52 pm
Unfortunately poor grammar and poor spelling are indicative of our weak educational system and of our ultra casual society as a whole. Grammar and spelling are not stressed in school and although reading is emphasized, you won’t find too many kids, adolescents, or adults reading novels which could enhance and improve their vocabulary and grammar. Maybe the issue here is that the individuals you’re referencing “don’t know what they don’t know”. Are they open to change and personal improvement? That would be key for me. After someone is clued in to areas where they’re lacking and are content to dwell in ignorance that’s a definite turn off.
July 8, 2011 at 11:06 am
Oh I so agree with you. Men with poor grammar (or how they would spell it – grammer) are huge turn offs! I had a crush on a guy and I finally decided to crash the crush when the birthday card he gave said “Heartily wishes..”
How difficult can it be to spell things right? You are right, what is a girl to do? *sigh*
July 16, 2011 at 11:41 am
i don’t think it’s asking for too much. good spelling/grammar is fundamental to speaking/writing in any language. but, as with most things, people realise they can “get by” without proper fundamentals (english speakers, musicians who don’t know theory, some athletes, etc…). i don’t mind IM-style writing online (u, ure, str8, b4) but if you do, you already HATE me 🙂 😦
July 16, 2011 at 12:11 pm
I wouldn’t hate anyone based on their lack of appreciation for grammar but as I said it’s a turn off for me…thanks for reading and commenting though 🙂